How to ask a friend R U OK?


A conversation could change a life.

It’s R U OK Day; the day we are all encouraged to ask someone who seems to be struggling an important question.

Are you okay?

You don’t need to be an expert – just a great mate and a good listener. So, if you notice someone who might be struggling – start a conversation.

By starting a conversation and commenting on the changes you’ve noticed, you could help that family member, friend or workmate open up. And if all is well, that person will know you’re someone who cares enough to ask.

How do you have a conversation with a friend when something doesn’t seem right with them? Watch R U OK’s video to pick up some tips.

Also, check out the R U OK website. They have some handy advice on how to ask R U OK, listen without judgment, and encourage action.

Here’s what we learnt:

  • Be relaxed, friendly and concerned in your approach.
  • Help them open up by asking questions like “How are you going?” or “What’s been happening?”
  • Mention specific things that have made you concerned for them, like “You seem less chatty than usual. How are you going?”
  • If they don’t want to talk, don’t criticise them.
  • Tell them you’re still concerned about changes in their behaviour and you care about them.
  • Avoid a confrontation.
  • You could say: “Please call me if you ever want to chat” or “Is there someone else you’d rather talk to?”

(Taken from R U OK, ‘Ask a mate: simple steps that could change their day’)

The Griffith University, Student Representative Council (SRC) will be supporting R U OK Day at all Griffith Univesity campuses. Check out the SRC RUOK? Day page for details.